Overcoming Obstacles of Life

Let me first state that I am by no means an expert when it comes to advice. All I can give is what I have gone through myself in my own life. I understand that everyone is different, and like any advice given it needs to be taken with a grain of salt.

Mother Teresa once said "I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.  I just wish that He didn't trust me so much." When I had my first miscarriage my good friend Jackie had told me that "God will not give you something you can not handle." I believe strongly in these very statements. Bad things happen to good people, and it is these very same people that pick themselves up everytime. Granted it may not be an immediate action and it may take time. That is what healing is though, it is a process for the body and soul. Whether or not you believe in god or a religion at all, it will not stop life from happening.

Faith for most people this is what get them through the hardships of life. The ability to trust in complete confidence of friends, family, or religion. It does not matter how you use it as long as you have it. I have to believe that there is something much bigger than myself and that miracles happen. I have faith in my family and friends. Lord knows they have been through alot with me. I have faith in my own abilities to be a great parent for my child, and know I will be able to provide for him.

If I put a wall in the way of your path what will you do? Will you merely stare at it or will you hop it and say this is not going to stop me? This wall is only an obstacle, how will you encounter it? Obstacle by definition is something that impedes, stands in the way of, or holds up progress. However, one thing this definition is lacking and must be remembered is that an obstacle is not impossible to get around. For some it is mearley the use of creativity and immagination to get around. Others however allow it to overwhelm their life.

Obstacle: I had a miscarriage
Feelings: Lost, lonely, empty, my body failed me, and the impending feeling I would never be able to have children.
Outcome: I needed to find healing within myself, and have faith that there was a reason that my first pregnancy was not meant to be.Two years after my miscarriage I concieved and carried to full term my adorable little boy.

Obstacle: Beig sent into a job that I had recieved no formal training.
Feelings: Overwhelmed, stupid, lost, and finally feeling like a failure.
Outcome: With dedication and lots of question I was able to learn a new job.

Obstacle: Due to my lack of self control I gained 60lbs during my pregnancy.
Feelings: Ugly, fat, slob, no self confidence, blamed the pregnancy, and finally despair.
Outcome: The first step in this entire process was putting the blame exactly where it belonged...on ME not my pregnancy. The second part figuring out how to fix it. Finally the third part realizing that this will take commitment and results will show overtime...not over night. This entire process took 2 years to work through but it was well worth it in the end.With that being said, I lost all 60lbs and 10 extra to boot!

These are all very minor obstacles in my mind though. There are people that have gone through so much more than me. The biggest aspect for all of these was realizing when and when I was not the one at fault in each obstacle. From there I had to work on my own healing, and stop casting blame on others.

Ultimately when an obstacle gets in the way it will be your decision how to get around it. Whether the choice is to self loathe or to sit down and figure it out. What is important is the drive to never give up stays constant. So I will leave you with this quote:

 

"Between you and every goal that you wish to achieve, there is a series of obstacles, and the bigger the goal, the bigger the obstacles. Your decision to be, have and do something out of the ordinary entails facing difficulties and challenges that are out of the ordinary as well. Sometimes your greatest asset is simply your ability to stay with it longer than anyone else."

~ Brian Tracy