"Fireproof doesn’t mean that a fire will never come, but that when it comes, you’ll be able to withstand it"

The Love Dare is a book written by Stephen and Alex Kendrick. It is a 40 day journey that is not to be taken lightly. Each day is broken into 3 parts. The first is a unique aspect of love will be discussed. The second you will be given a specific dare to do for your spouse. Lastly you will be given a journal space to log what you are learning,doing, and how your spouse is responding.

The reason why I bring this book up is because of the movie Fire Proof. In the movie you are introduced to a husband and wife that are at wits end with each other. The husbands father then dares him to take the 40 day dare.  As I watched the movie I could not believe how so much of the little things start adding up to big issues. I felt myself suddenly consumed into the movie and comparing my marriage to the movie. Realizing that maybe it would be best if I did not say anything negative to my spouse when the temptation arises. How one heated comment could go into a full blown argument, and over what exactly? What would be the benefit...to be right even though now my spouses feelings are hurt. What did I gain from the negative comment other than negative feelings and hostility in return?

Granted I have not taken the journey but just seeing how a simple change could mean so much...that  is inspiring. So now I find myself wondering how much will my marriage change if I choose to do this journey? Do I need to take it to save my marriage...absolutely not. I have an amazing marriage, but could this book possibly give me more insight to be a better person to my spouse? I think there is definently no harm in giving it a try, and in fact I may try this when I return from deployment. The self discovery maybe the biggest reward of it all. Granted I am not seriously religious by any means, but maybe getting a little more religion in my life will be worth it. There are great morals throughout this book and movie that can put alot into perspective. I would at the very least recommend the movie to anyone married. Who knows what you will discover about yourself, but I do know some things I have discovered about me. Some of which I plan to work on.
Fire Proofing Your Marriage